From: PragmaCynic on Oct 08 14, 06:11
I've been thinking of my ideal woman, and wanted to place my thoughts here. A friend of mine wants me to try and be hopeful and positive so … here goes.
She is the soft butch to equalize my ultra-femme. I don't even have a problem if she sometimes gets confused for a man. For me, that's exciting. In a nutshell; Taller than me, short hair, flat chest. Handsome in a suit and tie.
Her age can be up to 5 years under mine, but I confess to liking the older statesman. She can be up to 15 years older than me … more if we truly click.
I have my hands full working on my own weight. As a result, I would prefer someone that is between thin and slightly overweight.
Physical health becomes an issue as we get older. I don't want to fall in love just to have that snatched away from me due to ill health.
Race can be anything under the sun, as long as our personalities mesh. But religion may become an issue as I am not Christian and I do not react well to conversion attempts.
Now … that takes care of the icky, politically incorrect physical desires list. What will this elder statesman soft butch have to do emotionally?
Location … I suppose that for friendship anyplace in the contiguous United States would work, but I am also open to Canada and the UK … anyplace where language will not frustrate us. Relocation … we'll have to see who is relocating to whom, if either of us.
The few friends I have tell me that the woman of my dreams will have to have patience and to spare. Some of them may think that my elder statesman woman should be a psychiatrist. I think they're kidding, but …..
I will not pretend that I am “rainbows and skittles”, “kitties and puppies” or “sunny and seventies” in the personality department. The truth of the matter is that I am a pragmatic cynic with trust issues streaming out of every available opening.
However, part of that comes from the fact that, when I give myself and my heart, I don't go halfway. I love completely, friends or lovers. The thing is … I no longer give it with ease.
Since I have begun looking for lesbian companionship online, I've found that far too many want “instant gratification”. I don't move fast anymore. While I lived in my closet, I moved with lightening speed. Now I am all about “slow and steady wins the race”.
Also I have found a lot of folks can't be bothered with long and detailed emails. Part of the “instant gratification” think, I think. But conversation is very important to me and I like to think it is for others in my age requirements. My trust issues mean it will be at least a week or two before I am ready to move from emails to IM's to SMS to telephone calls. She needs to be ready for that.
I have a very active role playing life. This is not the kind of role playing like “Lady of the manner and her hand maiden” sex role play. I'm into paragraph posting plot driven role play and have a virtual island dedicated to that. Nothing would make me happier than to have someone special to play in the storylines I create.
Basically I am not perfect. I am a homebody whose clubbing and partying days are WELL behind me. Now I am looking for someone to share my golden years with.
So if you might be my elder statesman woman, please contact me.
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